You Are The Sum Of The 5 People Around You

You are the sum of the 5 people around you.....just let that sink in for a minute. So lets talk about how that relates to achieving your goals and dreams. Are you around negative people in your social circle that are unhealthy for you? 
I know we all can get caught up in gossiping at times ...trust me in my past I took part in plenty of it....until one day it hit me....If they are talking about others like that how do they talk about me? I mean I'm far from perfect. 
Do you have a circle of people around you that lift you up? I'm telling you friends if you aren't around authentically positive people you need to be. 
Something that I heard at a real estate conference back in the beginning of my career from Brian Buffini, if you are in real estate you may have heard of him. He said "not everyone will be happy for your success" and I've always remembered this. Sometimes it is the closest people to you that for what ever reason because of their inner thoughts are not happy for us when we take the steps to a more fulfilling life. Maybe when we were at our low point we made them feel better about themselves, maybe they are jealous and wish they had the courage to try something new, or maybe they say they are happy for you but their actions don't match their words. My advice to you is don't let anyone in your life keep you in a box of your previous self. I'm here to say perhaps you don't need to spend so much time around those people or at all that are not authentically in your corner. 
This is one of the reasons why when I decided I was going to make some huge changes in my life I moved to another city. I had a circle of people that I thought were friends but they were such a negative influence on my life that just being in different environment away from them gave me such a different mindset.
Speaking of environment, this has such a huge impact on our mindset as well. Where are you spending your time? What do you listen to ? What do you watch on TV? Do you wake up and watch the news every day? I mean these days there is not much positive on the news is there? Yes they are just doing their jobs but we can all pretty much guess at this point what is going to be on there. What about books? Podcasts? Are you ingesting positive goal achieving oriented material? You see friends your mindset is affected by everything and everyone in your environment. Don't get me wrong I love a good "Housewives" episode, but I try to limit the drama to once or twice a week. 
You see it may sound harsh but I don't have the time to be around anyone or anything that doesn't align with my goals and lifestyle. I don't tolerate disrespectful behaviour from the people I choose to spend my precious time with. The minute I feel that there is too much drama or I'm being disrespected in some way I am going to distance myself. 
You see if you just met me or if even some people who know me think of me as the person they see now, but I fought a lot of roadblocks to be the person you see today and you can be sure I'm not letting anyone take the healthy and positive mindset I've worked so hard at away from me.  You shouldn't either. Surround yourself with positive goal and success oriented people with a good positive outlook . People who are going to genuinely be in your corner, not just those that like your instagram posts or tell you what they think you want to hear because they are on auto pilot and they think that makes them a good friend or feel better about themselves in some way. 
Some people will leave your circle and that's ok, that's part of the growing process. Not everyone can handle or deserves to be on this journey with you. Find a community of like minded people to grow with because my friend growth is what moves us forward. 
Until next time ...stay focused on your vision for your future, work on it daily, and don't let anyone stop you from growing!